Sunday, 16 January 2022

2022

 
Well 2022, 

I'm hoping for a bit of a slower pace compared to last year (and a little bit more of a life outside of study/work because that really was not a thing) though as I enter into my 5th consecutive year of study I know it will yet again still be full of go and truth be told I've not fully recovered from the intensity that was last year. As I noted previously I was finding the come down off such an intense year hard and sometimes I find myself in dark places again or the start of them-perhaps I wouldn't be a rainbow if I didn't πŸ˜‰, and the following list I'm about to share is what I did over the break to help bring some light back into my world. 

I share this list for both you and I as I believe we can all take away knowledge from each other's journeys and also through reflecting on our own hard times and looking at the different things that have played a role in helping us through. This blog is a place for those of you who stumble upon it and it's also a place for me in that I have my own trail of magic to come back to. With that being said here is my list:

  • Use essential oils (Festive Spirts, Jasmine, Ylang Ylang, Lavender and Sweet Rose were my go-tos).
  • Buy a cute plant and look after it
  • Have a cry or two or three
  • Have naps on the couch
  • Sleep in
  • Go to bed on time
  • Dig into a good lighthearted tv series (Thankfully Desperate Housewives has 8 seasons-the first 4 were the best).
  • Catch up with family (only if this is beneficial for you).
  • Reach out to and catch up with some friends you haven't seen in awhile
  • Message and chat with some friends you haven't seen in a really long time
  • Discover new musical artists in your favourite genre and blast it (jxdn...you're welcome 😊-pop punk gold also Avril Lavigne is back with the best kind of nostalgia!).
  • Dive into a lighthearted book (I went through a bit of a step down process in this department from Bessel Van De Kolk: The Body Keeps the Score to Brene Brown: Atlas of the Heart and then made it to Jojo Moyes: Me Before You). 
  • Go watch some of those movies you've been excited to see but never have (Birds of Prey, Joker, The Suicide Squad and Emma were mine).
  • Give yourself permission slips to feel what you do and to know that it's okay
  • Fuck it buy that dress(es)
  • Get dressed up 
  • Drink out of a fancy vintage tea cup or a cute mug
  • Get your hair done
  • Remember a cute random stranger who has smiled and said hi to you... *bonus points if you've seen this person more than once and they've smiled and said hi again*... *extra bonus points if they've given you a compliment*. 
  • Try to make friends with someone's cat/dog and steal borrow it (Grateful for a neighbors cat who randomly came to visit me one morning... let's just say I've been waiting for such a moment for a whole year!). 
  • Put a meaningful and uplifting quote in your bedroom
  • Find THAT uplifting song... you know the one where it makes you feel like you're driving along in a convertible car (Sigala, Rita Ora: You for Me).
  • Go connect with nature-I mean 1400 stairs why not hey?.
  • Turn on the fairy lights
  • Open your windows-feel the breeze, hear the birds, rain or people chattering
  • Do your skincare routine (If you need or want to skip the fuss at the very least use sunscreen).
  • Write letters-keep one and rip one up
  • Plan out a new tattoo
  • Turn what could've been a shitty moment into a better one
  • Review your bucket list-Cross off anything that you lived out, take off what you no longer think applies and add new hopes and dreams.
  • Laugh, connect and laugh some more
  • Have a new experience
  • Challenge yourself in some way
  • Book and attend a health check up of some sort.
Here we go again- let's go 2022. 

With hope, flower power, badassery and luck

Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒΉπŸŒ πŸ€

Thursday, 9 December 2021

2021 Reflection

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2021 has been an incredibly intense, busy and stressful study year and one of constantly stepping into the arena of vulnerability, sleep deprivation, study meltdowns and word counts or more so the year of stepping outside of word counts 😏. Also trying to manage the juggle between study, placement and work. Grateful for the support I've had this year and that this study year has now come to an end. I've already started the nap life and watching copious amounts of Desperate Housewives πŸ˜‚. 

As this year closes I'm now starting the process of grieving. At the start of this study year I set a boundary around not knowing about certain things so I could concentrate, juggle and manage what I have this year and pass my studies while keeping myself okay. This ultimately meant not being there, saying my goodbyes and knowing about a loved one passing. It feels like this study year shouldn't have had to come at this sacrifice but it did and that sucks. I carried with me throughout the year how proud my loved one was of me for what I'm doing and the counsellor I saw for myself earlier in the year linked a certain quality that my loved one lived out within their lifetime to how I've been carrying out that same quality within my studies which was nice. 

In all honesty with coming off such an intense year I'm finding it difficult though I realise this is normal in relation to the situation and that it's important for me to ensure time for rest, play and a space to process my emotions and grief and to navigate balancing myself back out again in which I am taking a good amount of time off everything over the holiday period to support this. We can't pour from an empty cup and mine is well and truly in need of re-filling. 

Something that's currently filling me up with joy is seeing all the flowers in full bloom and how enchanting people's gardens are 🌷🌻🌳🌹🌼.

Stay safe over the up in coming break and have some fun πŸ’•.

With hope, love and sparkles
Rainbow 🌈🌠⭐

Thursday, 28 October 2021

2021 Favourites

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With sparkles and hope
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸ’–πŸŒ 

Sunday, 3 October 2021

NZ Mental Health Awareness Week 2021 Day 7

 

"This is where I would love to see health particularly beginning to really focus on so that we can stop being the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff is the reality that our children's exposures within New Zealand and outside of New Zealand to adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are the greatest unaddressed public health threat of our time. So we really need to start seeing the challenge of trauma being ongoing, about it continuing in our communities and the effects of it being unaddressed into adulthood as being a major threat to public health." 

Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334 Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • Women's Refuge: 0800 733 843
  • Male Survivors (Sexual abuse): https://malesurvivor.nz/
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

Resources:

Books:

Sensory Modulation/Whakaāio ā-rongo (regulating emotions through our senses):


Free e-learning courses: 

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

Saturday, 2 October 2021

NZ Mental Health Awareness Week 2021 Day 6

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"Our major finding is that your history of relational health-your connectedness to family, community, and culture-is more predictive of your mental health than your history of adversity. This is similar to the findings of other researchers looking at the power of positive relationships on health. Connectedness has the power to counterbalance adversity."- Bruce D. Perry, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing.

Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334 Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • Women's Refuge: 0800 733 843
  • Male Survivors (Sexual abuse): https://malesurvivor.nz/
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

Resources:

Books:

Sensory Modulation/Whakaāio ā-rongo (regulating emotions through our senses):


Free e-learning courses: 

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

Friday, 1 October 2021

NZ Mental Health Awareness Week 2021 Day 5

 https://restorativepracticeswhanganui.co.nz/great-visual-to-remind-us-to-connect-before-correct/3-rs-reaching-the-learning-brain-dr-bruce-perry/

Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334 Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • Women's Refuge: 0800 733 843
  • Male Survivors (Sexual abuse): https://malesurvivor.nz/
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

Resources:

Books:

Sensory Modulation/Whakaāio ā-rongo (regulating emotions through our senses):

Free e-learning courses: 

Thursday, 30 September 2021

NZ Mental Health Awareness Week 2021 Day 4

 

"It also requires us to step back and reflect and see behaviour that we find challenging in a different light. A child may simply be doing their best to survive now with brain adaptations from the past. We know a child's brain has the capacity to continue to adapt; for this to happen they need our help to build and maintain trusted relationships, manage everyday stresses and prevent new ones from happening."


Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334 Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • Women's Refuge: 0800 733 843
  • Male Survivors (Sexual abuse): https://malesurvivor.nz/
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

Resources:

Books:

Sensory Modulation/Whakaāio ā-rongo (regulating emotions through our senses):


Free e-learning courses: