Friday, 9 May 2014

Haters Gonna Hate: How To Deal With The Haters!

Sick of someone hating on you? Negative comments getting you down? Don't know how to deal with it? Fear know more because your guide on how to deal with haters is here!
At some point in your life you will come across someone if not a few people hating on you and you will most likely at some point in your life will hate on someone if not a few people... all this hating on stems from self hatred, jealousy and fear. Think about it for a second why on earth would someone hate on you?... The first few things you're most likely thinking are because I'm not good enough, ugly, worthless, stupid etc. Well what if I told you you're wrong?
There are really 3 main reasons people hate on you:
1. They hate themselves.
2. They see you as a threat.
3. They want to be you.
YOU MEAN IT"S REALLY NOTHING TO DO WITH ME BUT INSTEAD THEIR OWN INSECURITIES?!?! Yeah huh! If you take the time to stop feeding your own insecurities and look at and understand someone else and their life you can began to understand why that person is hating on you but of course that doesn't make it ok in any way, shape or form! That person will be struggling with self hatred in some way and also could be struggling financially, socially, with family, romantically, career wise or in some aspect of their life which can lead them to be jealous over something about you or what you have.
Hating on someone can also manifest from the fear of you doing better than them which too is their own insecurities as we all need to learn to accept that we each have unique journeys and talents that are equally just as wonderful and each have the power to change the world in different ways. I believe it's really important to try to understand someone and their situation so you don't take the hating personally. (If someone is hating on you for doing something hurtful and mean to them or vice versa I suggest you apologise, learn your lesson, grow as a person, forgive yourself and move forward, it is also the other persons responsibility to learn a lesson, grow as a person and move forward).
Think about a time when you've hated on or felt jealous over someone... Why is that? What was it that made you hate on them? I know when I have said something mean about someone it is because I'm feeling down about myself and usually they have something I want and when you truly deep down examine your reasons you most likely will find the same answer or something similar. So someone hating on you has actually nothing to do with you, it is to do with their own hatred, negativity, jealousy and fear just as when you hate on someone it is from your own hatred, negativity, fear and jealously. How do you deal with the haters and hating on others? Here are my top 5 tips!

My Top 5 Tips On How To Deal With Haters:
  1. Take the high ground: Do not get bitchy, mean, rude or cause drama there is no need for any of that! Keep your head up, remain mature and positive.
  2. Channel their hate into positivity: Use that hate as fuel and put it into a passion or hobby... exercise, painting, writing, sports etc. Great things shall come from it!
  3. Try not to take it personally: As hard as it may be remember it's them not you! If it gets to you do the above... channel their hate into positivity.
  4. Surround yourself with loving and positive people: You know those people who support, uplift and make you laugh... yeeeaaahhhh those fantastical people! Surround your world with them!
  5. Speak positively: If someone hates on you try your best not to speak about them or others in a bad way. If you don't have something nice to say don't say it at all. Speak positive words as much as possible!

My Top 5 Tips To Stop Yourself Hating On Others:
  1. Realise when you're hating: Take the time to acknowledge when you're hating on someone it's the first and hardest step baby.
  2. Understand why: Really look inside yourself and question why? and what can I do to stop doing it?
  3. Make a conscious effort to stop: Bite your tongue, keep your lips sealed, give a compliment or encouragement whatever you can do to make a conscious effort to stop in a positive way do it! Acknowledge that no one is perfect though and know that it is ok to slip up, if you do apologise where you need to, forgive yourself, move forward and keep bettering yourself.
  4. Concentrate on your own journey: Set goals and kick them in the face. Focus on what you are achieving, helping others with, your strengths and the good things in your life as this will help you not to compare yourself and hate on others. We are all beautifully different with our own unique and powerful talents!
  5. Uplift, encourage and be inspired: Be inspired by the person you were hating on, compliment, uplift and encourage them!!! Turn negativity into positivity!
Remember haters hate themselves not you! Take the high road and channel their hate into positivity. If you're hating on others take the time to ask yourself why?, make the conscious effort to stop, focus on your journey and uplift and be inspired by them!
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With love
Rainbow :) xoxo

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