Wednesday, 13 May 2015

It's Ok Not To Be Ok: Life Unfiltered

This post is dedicated to Madison Holleran who committed suicide on January 17th 2014 after struggling with mental illness however on social media her life looked perfect... star athlete, good friends and a talented student. You can read more on her story here.

I wanted to write this post because a lot of the things we see in the world and on social media is surface sh!t, it's not always what's going on behind closed doors... sometimes it is. We post only what we want to post and we need realise what we see is not always the reality of it all.

That pretty kind girl who looks like she's always having fun- she's struggling with depression, that happy fun girl you know who is successful at everything- she was abused as a kid, that outgoing guy you know who gets all the girls and has a ton of friends- he's feeling alone and struggling to find himself, that perfect couple you see who are posting lovey dovey messages all the time- their falling apart but social media can tell a very different story at times. We see and follow other peoples lives through what they post and there is always a lot more going on then that, we all have a story and hardships, we all have pain, struggle, heartbreak, triumphs, strength and successes. It's such a raw, honest and beautiful thing to know someones story -their pain and tears, their happiness and strength, I feel that's when we know people.

We need to be brave and focus on living a real life instead of a filtered one, getting to know peoples stories instead of just their surface and to know that it's ok not to be ok.

If you're worried about someone or you or anyone you know of is thinking or talking about committing suicide please contact your local helpline. For New Zealand that is Lifeline on 0800 543 354.

With love
Rainbow :) xoxo


  1. This is honestly the best post I've ever read! I think it's really great that you are making this known because it is honestly so true! As humans we can't help but judge people by their outer appearance (and sometimes that appearance is what we see on social media) we hardly ever take the time to ask people how their day is going and simple little things like that can make a huge difference in somebodies life because it shows that somebody does in fact care! Great post :)


    1. Thank you, thank you, thank you Crystal! :)

  2. Such an inspirational post! It's absolutely true, we often see the rose-colored life people portray, and even worse, hold those up as our own unrealistic expectations. Everyone has issues, nobody is perfect and we should, as society, care more about the person than a pretty picture. Beautiful post XO -Kim

    1. Thank you so much Kim and couldn't agree more! :)