Monday, 20 July 2015

Too Good Not To Share!


A few weeks ago I was talking to a lady at my gym and she asked how I was going, I told her I was struggling with a few things. I have a vision but have been struggling with not feeling good enough, how exactly I'm going to get there and life having chucked a mountain in front of me. She gave me such awesome advice and a technique too good not too share.

She told me she often got angry with her husband and she would spend a long time ignoring him and being mad, in the end she realised she was actually hurting herself more by dwelling on all the negativity and anger. Now when she is mad with her husband she tells him "I'm angry with you" and allocates a time frame to truly feel what she does, so she says "I'm not going to speak with you for the next 3 hours after that we can talk". She said this allows her to feel what she is feeling but not dwell on it and hurt her self in the long term.

I thought this was truly a great piece of advice, she said you can you use it with your partner, friends, family or yourself. She said to me to allocate myself a certain amount of time everyday to truly feel what I do and let it sit with me and over a period the time I need to spend dealing with that self loathing will become less and less and it will help me to achieve what I want without standing in my own way. This really inspired and helped me and I hope that her wisdom helps and inspires you too!

With love
Rainbow :) xoxo

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  1. That's a great idea! I'm going to do that next time I get angry or upset, thanks!

    Catherine
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  2. great post

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    1. Thank you Carrie! Have a gorgeous day! :)

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  3. What great advice! :) She seems like a lovely lady.

    Florals&Smiles

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    1. She indeed is! Have a magical day Kelsey and Kenecha! :)

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  4. This is great advice and I agree that it was too good not to share. I think its important to allocate time to making yourself feel good again that way you don't end up feeling angry forever and you can reflect but also let everything out. Great advice xxx

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    1. Most definitely! Have a beautiful day Izzy! :)

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  5. This lady gave you amazing advice, I totally agree with her that we should talk about our feelings, thank you that you shared with us with this tip, Rainbow :)

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    1. Thank you Ivonne! Have a magical day! :)

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  6. Great advice, thank you for sharing! :)

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  7. The lady's advice is really good and make a lot of sense, thanks for sharing!

    Prudence
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    1. Thank you Prudence! Have a beautiful day! :)

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  8. This is exactly what I have been doing for years to try to control my anger issues (because sadly, I get very angry quickly and have great trouble calming myself down). I say "Alright, be as angry as you want to be for 20 minutes" and afterwards I do calming things, like taking a bath, listening to chilled music, preparing some cute food (making it look pretty takes a long time, haha :D). So yeah, the lady who gave you this advice rocks, I can only agree ♥

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    1. It really is such a wonderful idea and it works! So glad that you found something that helped you and doing calming stuff afterwards sounds like the perfect idea! Haha I could imagine!!! Have a beautiful day Coba! <3

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  9. That's a brilliant tip ! I'd never thought about it that way :) I think I'll try that because I get frustrated pretty easily :)

    lots of love, Marianne xxx

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    1. Glad it could help! Have a gorgeous day Marianne! :)

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  10. I tell my husband same, when I get mad ;) Because I can get angry only for few minutes, then I go back to him and hug! But thanks for sharing it with others!

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    1. Haha very nice! ;) Have a magical day Diana!

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  11. A really good idea, ignoring someone and just bottling everything up is definitely something I do rather than talking.. alotting a time frame to deal with your feelings seems a lot more healthy!

    //teandtwosugars.blogspot.com xx

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    1. Yes me too, I can stay mad at someone for a really long time but it really doesn't solve anything. Have a beautiful day Georgia! :)

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  12. That is such great advice! I think the worst thing we can do is not allow ourselves to feel a certain emotion because it's "not healthy" or in opposition, dwell on it for far too long! We need to feel what we feel, accept it and move on! Thanks for sharing with us, it's a great reminder! I hope your week is wonderful my beautiful friend! XO -Kim
    www.thethirtysomethinglife.com

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    1. Yes very vey true Kim! Naww thank you, hope you're having a wonderful week too! :)

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  13. This is actually a really great piece of advice. Usually when I feel bothered what I'll do is just ignore it and go on feeling as I was and potentially feeling worse because I can't stop thinking about it for days. I just hated feeling like that all the time that I started to 'not let anything get to me' which really was just me ignoring my feelings in all. I think that setting a time frame is actually really smart. Like the women said, it allows her to feel what she is feeling while not dwelling on her emotions and letting them take over her for a long time. Such a wise women :D Thanks for sharing the tip Rainbow, I will definitely be using it!! :)

    -Crystal
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    1. Haha she indeed is! Glad I could help! I'm on the other end of the scale, when I'm mad at someone I'll spend a long time just ignoring them but it doesn't solve anything and I just end up holding onto so much anger. Have a beautiful day Crystal! :)

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  14. I love it when I just come across such positive and nice people x Nice post!

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    1. They are such beauties in the world! <3 Have a lovely day Milica! :)

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  15. i like this(: it's so important to take a second with your emotions before acting on them. i love talking to older people because they know so much and can make life way easier

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    1. Older people are truly amazing! <3 Have a gorgeous day Kuo! :)

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  16. Thank you for such inspiring advice! I'm definitely guilty here, but I really want to learn how to control the sad and angry feelings I sometimes get. I think it's important not to let them overtake you

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    1. Your welcome, glad I could help! Most definitely! Have a beautiful day! :)

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  17. I think that's a perfect advice!

    Sarah x
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  18. I love your blog! It's so good to hear these little nuggets of wisdom to give you something to think about in your every day life!

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    1. Naww thank you so much Melanie, that truly means a lot! Have a beautiful day! <3

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  19. That was some great advice, I always get mad at my boyfriend and sometimes I think wow I'm so mean, I will have to try this!

    Meme xx

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    1. Hope it works for you! Have a gorgeous day Meme! <3

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  20. oh wow, so sweet words, and really too good not to share :)

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  23. i learnt something today. this is a great advice!
    i guess im guilty to random sad and anger, ending up hurting myself at the end of the day.
    this would be healthier for a relationship. :D

    everything magical
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