Wednesday, 25 November 2015

It Starts With You!

 
Filters, selfies, likes, validation and ego's... we've become a self obsessed culture, these things will fill up your short term happiness but in the long term they will leave you feeling empty seeking out your next set of validation... it will NEVER lead to long term happiness within yourself.

Posting a selfie every now then is a good thing because my gosh you look damn cute, the world needs to see that beauty of yours and that validation might just be the perfect pick me up on a bad day. Adding a filter once in awhile adds that freakin' cool creative flare and can make for a great laugh however it's important every now and then to question Why am I posting this? Is it adding value? What am I seeking?. If your soul purpose and reasoning is about likes, validation and ego you need to check and work on yourself not your social media because your long term happiness starts with you... doing what you love, being who you are, living by your values and facing your demons. Long lasting happiness will never be found through the validation of the online realm or for a matter of fact in others in general, it starts with YOU!

With love
Rainbow :) xoxo

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  1. Such a great post, especially in a world where technology is part of our daily lives - we definitely should step away from the net and reflect on ourselves to make positive changes accordingly x

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    1. Couldn't agree more Sarah! Have a beautiful day girl! <3

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  2. Can't agree more with your wise words! True passion and adding value is ultimately the key to happiness and not satisfying one's ego :), thanks for sharing!

    Prudence
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    1. Hell yes!!! It can take some time to learn and understand that but it really is the key to true happiness! Thank you Prudence, have a magical day! <3

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  3. So true!! I'm rubbish at selfies but I like taking pictures!
    Have a lovely day :)
    Rosanna x
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    1. Hahaha oh picture taking is sooooo much fun! Thank you! Hope you have a lovely day too Rosanna! <3

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  4. I feel like most people only post selfies to get likes, they base these worth off of likes and if they don't get enough likes they feel down about themselves. I know a few people in my life who are like that which is why a long time ago I deleted my facebook account because it just always seemed like a contest and I didn't want any part of that. I wish we could go back to the olden days when we didn't have to post a picture and hope for people to like it I just wish everyone would love who they are for themselves and not bases on what people think of them.
    Have a lovely day beautiful x

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    1. I totally understand that, I didn't have Facebook for a couple of years and it was amazing, if it wasn't for people I wanted to keep in contact with and to gain and share inspiring knowledge I would be off it too. It's a really easy and ugly trap to fall into and I'm with you on that too, a mission to spread! ;) Thank you and I hope you have a beautiful day too you gorgeous girls! <3

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  5. YES! So much yes! We have become a society so obsessed with outside acceptance we don't even bother working on ourselves anymore. If 100 people like this photo then I'm fine right? I have always loved your interest behind the psychology of social media and I love that you spread that awareness and bring us back to what is truly important. You are an amazing person Rainbow, always love your posts. Love and hugs my dear, gorgeous friend! XO -Kim

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    1. It's so interesting to me and admittedly I've struggled with it too *one of the reasons I love to understand to see what's truly beneath it all" I think it's part of our human nature in terms of how Dr Russ Harris talks about in his book how back in the cave mean days we feared being rejected from our tribe because we were more likely to get killed so that's properly why we try and have a sense of wanting to belong and be liked but add in modern society and trends and it's just another ball game! Thank you so much Kim, love and hugs right back at you girlfriend! <3

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    2. It's interesting that you his book talks about that because our therapist talked to us a lot about that too in terms of my husband's anxiety! That way back in the day when man first existed their brains weren't fully developed so their instincts were flight or face danger and that was it. Now, with anxiety, your instincts develope that same flight or fight sense only there's no real danger like there was in cave man days, so our brains developed to further think and rationalize situations. However, those with anxiety have misfires that make them react right at a fight or flight situation so they often feel life or death panic when there is no real danger. So much interesting stuff and it's so crazy how powerful (but also how false) the mind can be! I'm definitely intersted in reading some of his books! Thanks for sharing your knowledge! XO

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    3. That really makes a lot of sense, I find it too soo damn fascinating how it comes back down to evolution and survival!!! Ohhh they are sooo good seriously just a wealth of knowledge, a lot of self help books only focus on short term results where his are long term and make a lot of sense! Thank you for sharing yours with me too Kim, super appreciate it! <3

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  6. "Living by your values and facing your demons "Yes Rainbow ! Put so perfectly I think it's so important to ask yourself why you're doing something because it is so easy to fall into the trap of needing other people for validation and once you're there it's a nightmare to get out ! Picking ourselves up and allowing ourselves to accept were beautiful and can make our lives anything we like is hard, but possible :)

    Lots of love, Marianne xxx

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    1. Yep it is indeed are really hard place to get out of, amen sister!!! It might be the hard road to find that place inside ourself but it's the best road! Have a gorgeous day Marianne! <3

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  7. This is such an excellent reminder to take a step back and look at our motives for doing things. People who post selfies often need a sense of validation or an ego boost. If you dig even further, why do they need that ego boost? They're unhappy or uncomfortable with themselves.

    Great post, seriously!

    -Alex
    A Northern Light

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    1. Yep so true! Have a beautiful day Alexandra! <3

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  8. It is so easy to get sucked in and compare the likes the one picture got to the ones another had and start questioning yourself if you are looking less attractive in one or the other.
    But I have to say that one of the great things about getting older is that you rely less on these things and more on yourself. Being 14 and having access to Instagram must be really hard...

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. I agree, I get Instagram in terms of a photographer, public figure or to have a bit of photo fun but it's turned into so much more and I feel for those younger ones, Have a lovely day! <3

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  9. Again, my dear friend, you're right - long term hapiness doesn't mean selfies or likes, the foundations of this are totally different, for example - if someone is self-confident and is in love with ourself she or he doesn't need selfies to feel better. What's more, long lasting hapiness is an value in itself, on the other hand, as you noticed here, short term hapiness will leave you feeling empty now or later,so why we wasting the priceless time to feel happy for one, short, moment instead of improve ourself to feel boundless hapiness? :)

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    1. I agree and I think as society we've been taught instant gratification and that also is extending into happiness which helps to lead this culture based on likes and selfies. Have a beautiful day Ivonne! <3

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  10. I agree with people using so many filters they look so airbrushed and unreal. I think it is fun to post pictures of yourself sometimes but, for me I can't be bothered unless I have time to then I don't mind. I think some people take themselves way to seriously and when they start trying to compete then it isn't fun anymore. I think by just being confident and happy with the way you look without going so far where you don't even look like you then you should stay true to who you are :) I loved reading this your so right with what you said here :) http://www.bauchlefashion.com

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    1. Thank you so much Heather, It's fun to take photos and have a bit of a photo shoot with yourself but like you said adding so many filters that you don't look like you and it being a competition is just not fun and not a healthy place to be. Have a gorgeous day Heather! <3

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  11. *Standing fucking Ovation* :') Yeeessss Rainbow!!!! This could not have been better said. You are so right about where we are and who we are and not just alone but as a society. We have grown so used to and fond of the confidence boost that social media gives us, that we forgot that we don't need any of that. Sure it's fun and exciting and it can be good but we've gotten to the point where we depend on it for happiness. When we should be finding that happiness within ourselves and learning to love ourselves, because we do, and not because other people's validations make us do so. I loved this so much!! Hope you are having a lovely week Rainbow :) <3

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    1. Naww thank you Crystal! <3 It's like another form of perfection and need to fit in and it's like this competition at times so much so a lot of people stop truly living. Hope you are having a lovely week too Crystal! <3 <3 <3

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  12. I love this post and completely agree with everything you said! It's just so crazy and annoying that people are so obsessed about social media nowadays, they don't feel happy and complete unless they are successful in the digital environment. And it's quite awful that not getting enough likes can actually make people feel down and lose their confidence. There is just so much negativity in social media, I feel like people should just look around them and see what is actually important and spend time with people who really matter and make them feel better

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    1. It's like we're obsessed with perfection and fitting in which I feel that all comes back to the book I read by Dr Russ Harris called The Happiness Trap where he talked about back in cave men days we feared being rejected from our tribe because we were more likely to get killed so it is part of our human nature but then add social media into the mix and trends like selfies and it can create something so unhealthy. Have a beautiful day! <3

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  13. Great post :)

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  14. Hope you had great and successful day (I'm sure you did!), dear Rainbow :)

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    1. Naww thank you Ivonne! Hope you are too! <3

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  15. The beautiful and talented Britney, I love selfies but aren't we putting filters on those too...:-)
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    1. Britney is AMAZING! Yes!!! It's gotten to this whole different level of trying to portray perfection. Have a lovely day! :)

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  16. Thanks for the reminder Rainbow! I don't think that we should measure our worth by the amount of likes we get. I have been doing what I love more often recently and I feel so much happier.

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    1. Nawww I feel so very proud of you Catherine, that is awesome! <3 Hope you are having a gorgeous day! <3

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  17. Awesome and on point advice!! XO
    Lauren-Blair
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