Tuesday, 16 January 2018

December Favourites

  • 81 Awesome Mental Health Resources When You Can't Afford A Therapist This is one to read through, share and bookmark πŸ’—
  • Rewriting The Man Code: The New Masculinity "A global movement is building, of men who are exploring new and varied identities, rediscovering their true natures and redefining male strength. Strong and silent types are being replaced with more diverse and fulfilling ways of being men". πŸ™ As you will see I'm LIVING for this topic, the articles, conversations and the work that's being done to progress the world, it's so incredibly encouraging and hopeful to see! HOPE IS ALIVE!😍 
  • Addressing Masculinity In India "It's critical to involve men in the discussion if we want to tackle deep-rooted gender inequalities in the country".
  • Be A Man: The Detrimental Effects Of Toxic Masculinity On Men's Mental Health
  • Male Feminists Are The Turkeys Who Voted For...A Long And Fulfilling Life  "Guys: pick a team. You can lament the way our culture makes it harder for men to look after themselves emotionally or you can hate feminism, which has been saying exactly that for years... but you can't do both. You can say that domestic abuse against men is under-reported or you can ask yourself why men find it particularly difficult to report. You can complain that boys are under-achieving in schools or you can question the unruly, disruptive, "reading is for queers", "don't be a girlie swot" stereotype that the culture still expects boys to perform. You can regret that men die younger or you can ask why so many of us seem to think it's a woman's job to tell us to go to the doctor." 😍 PREACH from the roof tops!
  • How the Patriarchy Exploits Toxic Masculinity and What You Can Do About It
  • menengage.org/ Highly recommend checking out this website and the work that is being done, also here is their Facebook page which is where I'm getting some of these articles I'm sharing here πŸ™πŸ™ŒπŸ’Ž
  • Equal Community Foundation is freakin' wonderful too and here's their Facebook page
  • TIME Person of the year 2017: The Silence Breakers Changing the world! So proud, thank you all for your bravery πŸ’–
  • 'Time' Including Men As "Silence Breakers" Reminds Us Sexual Violence Isn't Just A Women's Issue It can affect ANYONE and this is a power and control issue.
  • Emotional Abuse: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Physical and Sexual Violence: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Male Privilege: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel "I'm smarter than she is, I'm better than she is, if in any way she becomes equal to me than I as a man get diminished. Because his identity is so grounded in this notion of superiority over women." Well there it is... πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ. When I looked up the power and control wheel more I saw this applied to privilege as a whole too. I can see how superiority is like a drug to some people and how it feeds them and when it's wrapped up in their identities and they have no idea who they are without it, when they have not been taught to learn and express who they truly are, when we've taught that "men have to be strong, don't be weak, don't be less than, don't show emotions, don't talk about your feelings these are feminine traits, don't be and don't associate with feminine traits because feminine=weakness, and that =inferiority and "I as a man can not, am not and will not be less than" which can be so wrapped up in intense feelings of shame... shit no wonder why some people and men don't want to let power, control and superiority go and have troubles with acknowledging, accepting and working on this. The Patriarchal system may have given men power, dominance and control but that has still come at a severe cost of denying them of the ability to express, discover and be themselves fully and has held them too, to rigid gender roles that are so damn harmful. I think it's incredibly important to acknowledge, speak and work on this. This is not about man hating and is also not about women taking over the world and overpowering men or a certain group taking over. This is not about saying masculinity is bad however toxic masculinity is and that ultimately we all have "masculine and feminine" traits on a varying scale which is vital and no one should be denied or shamed for them and that we should be able to explore and express them and ourselves in healthy ways. This is about acknowledging how this system hurts US ALL and working to create a world where the system and cultures no longer hurts ANYONE and we are all EQUAL, INCLUSIVE, DIVERSE and FREE. 
  • Minimizing, Denying and Blaming: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Intimidation: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Coercion and Threats: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Using Children: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Economic Abuse: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Isolation: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
  • Power and Control Wheel: Understanding the Power and Control Wheel Watching these videos and understanding more about violence and knowing the signs is really important.
  • Narcissism: It's About Unhealthy Power and Control
  • Sadiq Khan On His Plans To Drive Gender Equality Forward In 2018 "We need more boys and men getting it, not just because they are fathers of daughters or because they have a sister they care about, but because we will benefit as a society if we have equality," he added, before quoting Malala Yousafzai -"We cannot succeed while half of us are held back." Can I hug you Sadiq Khan? 😊
  • Why Escaping Poverty Isn't Nearly As Easy As People Think THIS! So many people believe living in and getting out of poverty is a choice... it is not and to put it bluntly it is very ignorant to think so and highly uninformed. So many people do not recognise the privilege they have or take the time to listen, learn and have compassion for others, their stories and situations... which I also think partly comes back down to people's beliefs being tested and also wanting to be superior to others. My tutor of my Mental Health and Addictions course noted that getting out of poverty the majority of the time happens out of share luck and he related it to the card game of Presidents and Assholes.
  • 12+Ways Job Applications Discriminate Against Applicants
  • 4 Myths About Schizophrenia It's Time To Bust
  • How We Met Our 7-Year-Old Daughter's Eating Disorder An eating disorder at any age is just brutal but at 7 years old...πŸ’” 
  • Aly Raisman: This Is Survival YAS ALY!!! πŸ’—πŸ™ I love how Aly is standing up and being so outspoken and fierce against her own horrific experience, for others and the wrong doings done by USA Gymnastics, U.S Olympic Team and Larry Nassar. 
  • Male Rape: Breaking the Silence, review: the importance of this documentary cannot be overstated I watched the documentary here, how long this link will work due to the copyright side of YouTube I don't know. Thank you to all these Men coming forward and sharing their stories, your courage is deeply respected and admired. Men you are not alone and I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's important for you to talk, be believed and to have access to receive the help and support needed. It is NOT your fault, it is NEVER your fault that something like this has happened to you or anybody else.
  • The Therapist: Corey Taylor Corey Taylor from Slipknot and Stone Sour opening up with a therapist about his childhood in which he experienced poverty, domestic violence, rape and an absent father and subsequently battled with addiction and had a suicide attempt. Thank you Corey! πŸ’—
  • Rainbow Beard Oh my oh my I have more than just hearts in my eyes! I LIVE! This was done in support of legalising gay marriage in Australia and I scream yes to it all! Slaying in every way! Fuck I wanna date a man about the colourful beard/hair, equality, self love, kindness and fitness life and if he wears nail polish even better! πŸ˜‰πŸŒˆπŸ¦„... fuck it let's chuck a request for Rainbow Glitter Pecs in there too! πŸ˜‚
  • Laverne Cox Presents: 'The T World' Documentary I LOVE LAVERNE COX she is damn flippin' stunning inside and out 😍. This documentary interviews 7 young people on being transgender, we should all take the time to watch and listen. I love you all and thank you for sharing your stories with us πŸ’—
  • 7 Libraries To Inspire Your Own Dreamy Book Nook I swear I just want to live in a creative cottage with a nice garden and pets, home gym and a comfy library... #Introvertdream πŸŒΉπŸŒ³πŸŒ·πŸ¦‹πŸΎπŸΆπŸ°πŸ±πŸ‹πŸŽ¨πŸ“š 
  • The Mighty's Mental Health Heroes of 2017 So proud of everyone on here especially Talinda πŸ’—
  • DOCS: The Woman With 7 Personalities One of my classmates and friends suggested and lent me Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind to read, pre warning me that it was very graphic. It is about Alice who develops Multiple Personality Disorder also known as Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) through having experienced severe sexual abuse at the hands of her father from the time she was 6 months old and also by others as he took her to a paedophilia ring from the time she was about 4. Growing up she started to have visions to what had happen to her but struggled to comprehend if it was real or not and like it had happen to someone else and she was there watching it as an outsider. She develops Anorexia in her teen years and also starts to hear voices from outside herself to kill herself and further along starts hearing voices inside her self and missing chunks of time to which she can't recall where she was, what happened or how she obtained certain items and is later diagnosed with Multiple Personality Disorder. Alice's story is extremely heavy, heart breaking and I as mentioned graphic though her bravery, vulnerability and strength is awe inspiring to say the least. Multiple Personality Disorder is most often connected with having experienced severe trauma in childhood so much so that a person's personality essentially splits as a form of survival and protection from the abuse... that is just so heart breaking and sickening to think that another human being can do such horrific things to another person though incredible that the mind can do such a thing to protect and survive. Alice and her story deserves an audience, an audience for people to learn, understand and to gain compassion though I do however suggest if you have experienced your own sexual trauma or are sensitive to such a topic that this book could be triggering so please consider this when making the decision to read or not. The documentaries above and below are good watches too and don't detail the trauma. All of them do a great job of helping to understand the disorder, break the stigma's associated with it and shine a light on such beautiful, courageous souls who are hero's.
  • All Of Me: Dissociative Identity Disorder Documentary Jess is gorgeous and such a beautiful soul and she did such great job of sharing her life with DID and explaining the disorder itself. Her alters Ollie, Jake, Ed and Jamie are all just as gorgeous and special as she is. If you search through her videos you can watch a day in the life or other videos of her alters.
  • 'I am gay': Wisconsin Priest Comes Out To Parishioners, Gets Standing Ovation πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘ You are loved and I'm so happy you are free to be you GregoryπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰
  • Mike Shinoda Explains What His Grief 'Looks' Like After Chester Bennington's Suicide πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’” Sending love continually Linkin Park's way and I praise Mike and the LP family for being open, supportive, raising awareness and starting conversations.
  • Brain Imaging Findings Could Lead To New Eating Disorder Treatments
  • Is Porn Destroying A Generation?
  • 4 Reasons Anti-Feminist Women Hate Feminism (And What They're Missing) Sometimes I feel the fundamental cores of what feminism is truly about has just been so skewered and misunderstood by some people πŸ˜”. Though I do see how some of it is easy to fall into or misinterpret like thinking it's about man hating or thinking it's about women taking over the world. I do think it should just be called Gender Equality as it sounds inclusive for everyone on the spectrum of human though at it's core to me at least it's about equality for all and again acknowledging how the Patriarchal system hurts us ALL.
  • This Is Why We Still Need Feminism
  • Why We Still Need Feminism and another one, such solid pieces.
  • Activism Needs Introverts Shout out to fellow Introverts, who you are is needed! 😘
  • Student Suicide: Real Stories
  • Diabulimia: The World's Most Dangerous Eating Disorder
  • Why We Seek The High Of Stardom The topic of fame is so interesting to me... how people crave it, how people think it will fix them, how we're obsessed with it, how it makes people more prone to isolation, depression, substance abuse, addiction and mental illness as a whole, how we think it =happiness, the attention and admiration from others, self esteem, the rise and fall of stardom and the addiction to it, itself. The money, the social status, the self centeredness of it, the corruption and how that all ties into our world. I've wanted to be a public figure in some form to inspire and help others through fitness, self love, eating disorder awareness, creativity etc though you can't really mention public figure without thinking about the "fame aspect" of it and looking back I can see how a part of me use to think how it would somehow make me "good enough" too and make people like me. Now I'm like ehhhhhh yeh nah, I'll just keep doing what makes my heart sing and is authentic. I'm not interested in trying to "pick up followers" whoever reads reads and if I make some cool opportunities and dreams happen along the way sweet. Most of all at my core I just want to inspire, create and help. Celebs themselves have spoken out against fame and we've recently seen in the YouTube world how people can be driven in such in an unhealthy way and it all lead to it being just all messed up, all kinds of wrong and losing basic human respect. The fitness industry in this aspect too is well... yeah... I stopped following a lot of people and have a lot of respect for good trainers genuinely helping people. If you really want to help people or do what you love it's not always about a mass audience, it's about authenticity, passion, knowledge and humanity. I feel at times these can be stripped away by what it takes at times to get and maintain a mass audience in the public arena and social media world... then really what is it truly coming down too?. Fame though is interesting to study and observe and it can be one hell of a drug.  
  • From Ashes to New: Lost and Alone and From Ashes to New: Breaking Now  If you like Papa Roach, Breaking Benjamin, Linkin Park and Hollywood Undead check these guys out!
  • Issues: Mad At Myself and Issues: Never Lose Your Flames Tyler Carter ohhh how you could sing to me anytime and my heart would be all mushy πŸ’˜πŸ’˜πŸ’˜
With hope and love
RainbowπŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

Wednesday, 10 January 2018

Bloody Wise, Hella Kind & A Fireball Of Passion

If you ever are in a situation that leaves you in deep hurt, pained in agony and twisted and tormented balled up in anger feeling like you have know idea how to move forward, heal and let go- allow yourself to feel it ALL. Let it hurt, allow yourself to cry, be mad, sad, frustrated and full of hatred though know that it is not all there is or all of who you are or will be. Allow yourself to learn and grow, allow yourself to see another side to the pain you're experiencing. You, your heart and this experience is not here to just be full of pain, hate and resentment, allow yourself as much time as needed, make room for the ups and downs and let it give you the ability to gain in a positive way. Let it make you bloody wise, hella kind and a fireball of passion.

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–