Tuesday, 13 February 2018

January Favourites

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  • Why Don't Men Talk?, Let's Get Vulnerable, The Ugliness Of Body Image πŸ˜πŸ‘ŒπŸ™πŸ’ŽπŸŽ€ HOLY FARRRRKKKK!!! This is one of the most needed, epic, brilliant, beautiful and sexiest series I have ever seen of men sitting down together and being open, raw, vulnerable, speaking about their insecurities, being kind and compassionate with each other and the world and discussing the DEEP parts of life and themselves. Thank you to all you Men (can we be best friends?!?! 😍) and huge thank you to Justin Baldoni for all the work you're doing, really this is just life and world changing 😊. I'm in awe and complete utter love with what others are doing to positively impact people and change the world for the better πŸ’“πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œ    
  • Why I'm Done Trying To Be "Man Enough" Justin Baldoni's TED talk, gosh his mission, work and soul are GORGEOUS! πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•
  • This Is What Happens When Gender Roles Are Forced On Kids
  • How To Teach Children About Gender Equality
  • Justin Trudeau: Why I'm Raising My Kids To Be Feminists Another GORGEOUS soul! It's funny one of my last flatmates told me to look up Justin Trudeau to see how "good looking" he was though I didn't actually find him that physically attractive but damn his heart, soul, understanding, passion, kindness and the work he's doing makes him freakin' over the moon attractive πŸŒ›πŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸŒœ #It'saboutthatsoul #WouldlovetoseeNZ'sPMwithCanada'sPM #Dreamteam
  • Could A Master's In Masculinity Narrow The Gender Gap? 😲😲😲I WANT TO STUDY THIS!!!! 
  • Toxic Masculinity In Boys Is Fueling an Epidemic of Loneliness
  • Meet Some Of The Men Redefining Masculinity In Kenya How I love and want to hug you all! πŸ€—
  • Changing Male Attitudes In The Middle East And The Rest Of The World: What Does It Take "Experiences of conflict can change men's ideas of self-worth and create identities rooted in extreme violence, while underlying patriarchal norms encourage men to adopt dominant, violent behaviours. Hassan wants to shift this reality. "I want to be a part of society where I made something, changed something," he says. "We have to work to improve the attitudes, to improve the behaviours,- of men- to engage men and boys to reach gender equality."
  • MenCare Partner MERGE For Equality Is Working To Change The Way We Raise Boys In The United States
  • Boys Need To Be Taught Consent By Their Fathers "Personally, I think engaging boys and men in this discussion is only a vital first step. I believe that one major source of the problem is how we define masculinity. It is time we take a good, hard look at the toxic way we teach males in our culture to look for self-worth. It should not come from physical and sexual domination of others. It should not come by exerting power and control over others. The time is long overdue to stop associating certain traits with our genitalia. It is even long overdue that we openly confront the violence against women that is far to prevalent".  ❤❤❤
  • Men Are Socialised To See Themselves As Dominant
  • Cheating and Manipulation: Confessions of a Gaslighter "Gaslighting is when you know in your gut that you have a situation read right, but the other person is trying to convince you that you read it all wrong. If this happens over a period of time one's sense of reality slowly erodes. There is a scale to gaslighting, from lying and exaggerating to controlling and domination." Must read! πŸ‘ 
  • How Shame Changes a Person's Brain 
  • Trauma, Social Justice and Eating Disorders "Recognizing the link between mental health, trauma and disordered eating is important because it can lead to healing. Furthermore, at its core it reminds us that societal structures and individual actions have direct and real impact on the mental health of individuals. Trauma, gender-based violence, and eating disorders are all social justice issues." πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘ 
  • Should Gyms Step In On Anorexic Members? There is most definitely a gap in the system with this. Evidently it's not a clear cut line on how to approach and deal with the person and situation either and is really a person by person case. Having worked in a gym I saw members who were very clearly sick and were getting sicker... and at times no one did anything. Down the line I learnt that we could let management know of the person (I only came of this information due to how open I have been with my own battles and how concerned I was with some members) they started to follow a bit of a process consisting of getting a hold of their emergency contact, sitting them down and chatting with them, requesting a medical certificate and at times banning the person. If they were working with a personal trainer that was fine. Though as someone pointed out that banning a person can often mean they just find somewhere else to go or find other means in which they may not be surrounded by others if anything happened... though not intervening I also think is incredibly dangerous and not okay. It also is made so complex in how stubborn, secretive and driven the illness is and often the denial that comes along with it. There is also the topic of exclusion and discrimination of those with mental illness. Due to my own battles with it I have a sixth sense and understanding of the illness and so did some other staff as the fitness industry has a tendency to attract those that have suffered. Though many did not and some things I heard from staff were still awfully misunderstood and stigmatized ultimately no one was given any training on eating disorders and on what to do and the process and protocols that follow. I agree with this article when it says that ALL gym staff need to go through education surrounding eating disorders as they are extremely prevalent underneath the surface and also know the process and protocols to follow in the club if they do suspect that someone maybe struggling. Perhaps eating disorder organisations, mental health services and gyms need to be communicating and collaborating together??? πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€”
  • 'I Am Jazz' Star Jazz Jennings: 'I Have Binge Eating Disorder' Thank you Jazz for opening up, sending you love and hugs! ❤πŸ€— I read a really great post the other day that stated "Because of the stigma about weight gain in society, many BED [sufferers] feel that their problems are down to a personal failing in self control. However, Binge Eating is more likely a symptom of unresolved or repressed problems. Eating fills a hole for them that isn't emotionally, and and [sic] is something to attempt to cover issues that need addressing. There might also be the assumption that just because of their size and outwardly positive disposition, BED sufferers aren't vulnerable or prone to collapse. Some Binge Eaters may feel that their problems are minor in comparison to others and not try to seek help overcoming their condition, thinking it can be fixed with diet, exercise and will power when the root of their behaviour can ran far deeper. Seeking medical advice or consulting a nutritionist is a good start, but the aid of a counsellor or other psychological experts is a better way to tackle the source of the condition". #Breakthatstigma! 
  • Eating Disorders in Men: Not a Phase, Not a Choice, Not a Joke
  • What To Do When You Want To Binge Eat
  • Jana Pittman's Story Tells Us An Uncomfortable Truth About Living With An Eating Disorder "Jana's experience is not uncommon. I think it is important to be aware that someone experiencing an eating disorder may still be excelling in their studies, expertise or career". 
  • Michael Phelps: 'I am extremely thankful I did not take my life' Thank you Michael Phelps for being so open and honest, I'm glad you're here too. In this post he talks about the depression he struggled with after every Olympic game even after winning all those medals which sounds on the same wave lengths as a couple posts down where a research study is mentioned about being done on the high and low musicians and roadies can face. 
  • Linkin Park's Mike Shinoda Releases 'Post Traumatic' EP After Chester Bennington's Death The rawness that Mike is sharing is helping so many and I hope it is helping him to cope too😘😘😘
  • Strike A Chord: Looking After Each Other Chester Bennington's and Mike Shinoda's wives Talinda and Anna along with Linkin Park's road manger Jim did a livestream talking about mental health and Chester. So many important topics were covered and I applaud their vulnerability and strength for talking about this and publicly too. I found the part where Talinda talked about how Chester in the months prior to his passing opened up about the shame he had surrounding his relapses with alcohol interesting and that she knew when she found out that there was alcohol in the room where he passed that he was not drunk when it took place but that he had held such intense shame over relapsing. I think the topic of shame and guilt surrounding relapses and the topic of that relapses are a part of recovery needs to be talked about more openly and publicly as whole and especially with those that struggle and family and friends surrounding the person. I've struggled with feelings of shame and guilt surrounding self harm relapses which when you're already battling urges and a mixture of intense emotions it adds another layer to a complex internal battle which can be so hard to vocalise and can all ball up into more of the same behaviour and spiralling further down. I too have found with battling eating disorder urges and desperately not giving into them so I don't have a "slip up" or "relapse" to be at times incredibly painful and struggled with accepting and normalising that sometimes you do relapse. I also found at the end of the livestream the research study that was talked about and being done surrounding artists and roadies with the transition going from home life to tour and tour to home and the impact and highs and lows of that fascinating and much needed too. 
  • How To Argue Online Without Losing Your Shit Mike and Anna Shinoda shared this on their twitters which has someone really valid points.
  • The Top 10 INFJ Careers Fellow INFJ's I see you and I adore you πŸ¦„. No wonder why the idea of doing customer service and sales or anything of the sort freaks me the hell out and makes me want to burst into a bazillion tears #Who relates?... creativity, expression, inspiring/helping, one on one or small group and deep life shit= Home and the core of my calling πŸŽ¨πŸ“šπŸ‘πŸŒ±πŸŒ·πŸŒŒπŸŒ 
  • He Named Me Malala Documentary πŸ’ŽπŸ’ͺπŸ“š 2015 documentary you can find on Netflix on Malala Yousafzai who got shot in the head by the Taliban for speaking out and standing up against them for enforcing that girls can't go to school. She survived and has become a well known advocate for women and human rights #Heroic-inspiration 😍😍😍
  • The Catastrophic Effects of Mental Health Stigma
  • Five Ways To Wellbeing At Work Toolkit
  • Halsey's Powerful Speech At NYC Women's March Yas Halsey, fierce! πŸ’™❤πŸ’™❤
  • Megan Speaks Out About Jacinda Ardern's Pregnancy Backlash-"Please Don't Tell Me You Had The Right To Know" Towards the end of last year we had a change of government and a woman become our Prime Minster here in New Zealand (Hurray on all fronts!πŸ’•) during the campaign she was asked about if she planned on starting a family which caused a huge backlash and battle over whether the country had the right to know or not as part of Jacinda's response was "It is totally unacceptable in 2017 to say that women should have to answer that question in the work place." YAS QUEEN πŸ‘Recently she announced she was pregnant in which there have been many supportive comments but also some pretty nasty ones. I LOVE what Megan who is a radio host here had to say! Get it girl! πŸ™ I'm proud we have a woman who's becoming a Mama and is here for the people for our Prime Minster 😍
  • Black Americans Suffer Most From Race Trauma, But Few Counselors Are Trained To Treat It 😭😭😭 Honestly #Fuckhate #Equalityforall
  • Gay Indian Prince Throws Open Palace Doors To Vulnerable LGBT People πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•❤πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œπŸŒˆ
  • 3 Reasons Why Internet Harassment Is Not 'Freedom of Speech' HOLLA! πŸ™
  • Lizzie Velasquez: How To Make The World A Kinder Place "The world doesn't need you to change yourself to be more normal. What the world needs is people who truly embrace differences, physical and otherwise." Yes GF, you get it and keep spreading the message! πŸ¦‹πŸ˜ŠπŸ¦‹
  • Iceland's New PM is a 41 Year Old Anti-War Feminist and Environmentalist
  • Being a Celebrity: A Phenomenology of Fame Sooooo intriguing! 
  • Iceland Makes It Illegal To Pay Men More Than Women
  • Pastel Goth Unicorn Wedding For $1500 ☠πŸ’“πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’—πŸ¦„πŸ’‹
  • Gala Darling: Year In Review Questions To Make 2018 The Best Ever ⛈πŸŒˆπŸ¦„πŸ‘‘ You all know how I adore this OG Queen, gosh and her accent is freakin' ADORABLE! 😍
  • Gala darling: The Biggest Lessons I Learned In 2017... That I'm Taking With Me Into 2018 πŸ’“πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’—
  • Panic! At The Disco: Bohemian Rhapsody Live 😲😍 So I think all of us who listen to Panic! we all knew that Brendon Urie could sing but SHESSSHHHH a ton of bricks Urie you pull this one off mighty fine πŸ™ŒπŸ™ Still waiting for you to marry me πŸ˜‰πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‚
  • Queen: Another Bites The Dust Live At Wembley 1986 Of course Panic!'s version sent me off down a Freddie Mecury and Queen YouTube rabbit hole πŸ˜‚ Freddie's flamboyantness is one of the most sexiest things along with that ass shake at 2.59! and another live version 1981 with Freddie in short shorts and epic strut! YASSSS FREDDIE DARLIN'! πŸ˜πŸ˜ŽπŸ’‹
  • Freddie Mercury Funny Moments (Part 1) What a sassy savage Queen he his! πŸ˜‰πŸ‘‘πŸ’Ž
  • Freddie Mercury's Vocal Improvisation With Public
  • Fall Out Boy: Sugar We're Going Down Live Acoustic Ahhhhh can I have both Brendon Urie and Patrick Stump serenade me pretty please with a cherry on top?!?! πŸ˜‡πŸ’πŸ˜…πŸ’
  • The Voice Kids Auditions Lara: Sugar We're Going Down Beautifully and uniquely done!

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

P.S: As Mark Groves stated "Flawed and fucking proud. To being human- Cheers" I too am deeply flawed and fucking proud- cheers fellow humans ☀☁⛈⛆🌈

Sunday, 11 February 2018

2018

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Each year is a chance to learn, experience and grow, I know by now you can plan it all out but it won't always turn out the way you hope. Some years can be magnificent others utter disasters while some can be a mixture of both though when you look back in reflection there is always lessons and blooming to be held amongst it even in the spaces that feel like they can't possibly seem to bear any kind of sweet fruits. Character building and deep compassion are ones I love, each and every part makes you more of who you are in some form or another and gives you more knowledge about the world and your truth. It's okay to not be okay and it's okay to be on a different road, years should never be compared to your neighbours and friends, journey's are as unique as the individual, unfollow anything that makes you wallow in self hate and move on from people and places that are clearly in the past. Change and evolving is part of the process and letting go from what has come and gone and is no longer truly a part of you and your journey is necessary. Feel the full range of human emotions it is a natural part of us and the roller-coaster of life and reach out to those you trust, no one is ever alone, don't stay silent as easy as it is to do so and as hard as it is to speak up please open your mouth, don't let your secrets kill you. Be fucking brave and I'm meaning the type of bravery where you sit alone with yourself and think about trying or changing something, gathering information and talking to those around you about it, figuring out pros and cons, barriers and plans and making a calculated jump... be fucking brave-I believe in you. Whatever this year holds for you and I, I hope it holds pieces of magic and good madness and no doubt it will have growth, it's a late one but happy 2018 my friends. ❤πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œ

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

P.S: Happy early Valentines day, hope you get your self loving on! πŸ’˜πŸ’ŸπŸŽ€πŸŒΉπŸ’‹πŸ’ŽπŸ‘‘