Sunday, 1 July 2018

June Favourites
  • As It Is: The Stigma [Boys Don't Cry] (Official Music Video) FUCKING YES!!! Their new album coming out in August "The Great Depression" looks like it's going to be bloody fantastic and I'm so looking forward to it. This is what changes lives and the world and I'm screaming and squealing with so much excitement #Pullingapartsociety'slies #Thenewworldsapproaching ๐Ÿ‘Š✌๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ–ค
  • Brene Brown Breaks Down Common Types of Armor Hmmmmmhhhmmm dang Brene bringing those raw truths to the surface once again! YES homegirl!๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹⛈๐ŸŒˆ
  • How Intersectional Feminism Transformed Me From An Asshole To An Activist "I wonder how many abusive people are abusive because they have denied themselves their true selves". ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ Now that is a powerful question we need to ask!. Combine that with the feelings of shame that would be held within that too. To also recognise and admit our mistakes, flaws and faults as well as to work on ourselves can be incredibly hard. To do that you have to be ready to, you have to go deep soul searching which can be scary, you have to NOT be driven by your ego and you have to be so raw, honest and vulnerable. It's hard and ugly shit, it's ongoing, it's up and down and windy as hell but that's where the magic hides.
  • Values & Self Love I think the topic of self love while being in a relationship needs to be talked about a lot more. To be able to find and maintain a balance of not having our identity, worth and "whole world" attached to and wrapped up in being in a relationship and also to not be distant in a relationship either. I really do think learning about who we really are/understanding ourselves and having self care is so vital for each and everyone of us...single, in a relationship and through out all aspects of life. I would say a lot of us in some way or another have felt that a relationship or person in that form defines who we are and/or our worth or thinking it will fix all our problems, heal us or think that's how life is "meant to fall into place" or base our whole happiness on a person... that's not fair on another person and is also when we'll choose people who aren't good for us as well as how we break our own hearts and self destruct like a ticking time bomb. Self love is a home๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿก๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•
  • 100 Ways You Can Start Loving Yourself Right Now Just thought I'd put this here after the above post ๐Ÿ˜‰. Might be an oldie but it's full of gold! For you and I ๐Ÿ’Ž๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿฆ„
  • Man 2 Man "Breaking the silence on violence. Man 2 Man, whanau by whanau". ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’– 
  • The Bikini Contest Is Over, but We Are Living Inside the Beauty Pageant When we value looks over everything else and put it at the top of the chain in society there is an issue and there is a long running history with this with women though it does for sure happen with men too. When we gain our sense of success, personal power and worth from looks this is an issue. Which when such belief systems have been internalized it can take a hell of a lot to unlearn. I'm all for "looking good" and owning our personal beauty and I do think for a lot of us this can play a part in our self love journey and getting to know ourselves and feel good. It has definitely for me like changing hairstyles, experimenting with colours and fashion, the act and creativity of getting dressed up and putting on make up and learning about my body in the gym. Though "looks" should not stand at the top nor alone over everything else in the world ESPECIALLY when we still idolise and value set beauty standards like in western society big boobs, white, flat stomach, tan, tall and slim or petite, "no flaws" or muscular for men etc./ or the popular cultural shifts in "beauty" like now big lips, big butts, ripped etc. It all needs to be thrown where it belongs in the trash. If you are those things cool, if not that's cool too... certain "looks" should not be placed higher above another and in general "looks" shouldn't determine our ranking in society, success or be connected to our worth. I believe in diversity, I believe in flaws (we all have them so the more we try to hide them the more of a lie we are selling and the power/ego trip that comes along with all of this of superiority and inferiority because you are now or are not the things society values lols ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿคฎ, which I can see when you are what society values there can for sure be a safety and protection mechanism to that as well as a position of privilege) and I believe there is far more to us than just looks. We do a significant disservice when we reduce ourselves and others to just looks. We are a whole person first and foremost with so much to be discovered, grown, acknowledged, appreciated, used and celebrated and also simply because we are human and a soul. To some degree we all want to be accepted, respected, valued, understood and have meaning and connection and how are we meant to have that when it becomes about "fitting the standards, being fake and looks"?. It is time we challenge what we value as people and a society and why we have put such things in a place of importance and also over another?... #Letsdigrightintothatdeepshit
  • How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth? "measure your self-worth by who you are at your core. Behave according to your values and create a life of meaning and purpose." I actually really like the idea of what Dr Russ Harris talks about in his "The Happiness Trap" book of not measuring self worth and esteem at all as it becomes a game of Chess where your white pieces are proving to you all the reasons why you are a good person and worthy and the black the reasons why not. He instead suggests to become the Chess board itself and to just discover and live by your values, in which he advises that forgiveness should always be one since none of us are perfect. I also do like the concept I talked about here of that we are worthy simply because we exist. You know how I mentioned further above how once such belief systems have been internalized it can take a hell of a lot to unlearn?... well's always an ongoing journey, with highs and lows, falling off the waggon, back on once again and around the loopy de loop I'm sure many of us will find ourselves but there are tools out there. ๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹⛈๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ€๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑ๐Ÿ’ฆ๐Ÿ’ฆ๐Ÿ’ฆ๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒป
  • After Ever After 3- DISNEY PARODY ๐Ÿ’™❤I LOVE HIM and I'm glad he did another one of these! So clever and talented.๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š
  • Demi Lovato's New Song Is for Anyone Who's Had a Recovery Setback ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ‘Œ Recovery is a journey not a destination and it sure is hell not a straight easy line. Slip ups, relapses, struggles and set backs are a part of the journey for many and yes they can happen YEARS into recovery. That doesn't mean "full recovery" doesn't exist or isn't possible it means that it's an ongoing journey of checking in with yourself and doing what you need to do to be well. It's not a perfect and it's unique to the person and shouldn't be compared to others. Recovery doesn't always look and feel like a "success"... it can be fucking ugly, hard and incredibly painful. I've mentioned in some previous posts a bit of my struggles over the last few years and that the life struggles I've had have been triggering to my ED. I honestly have a hard time being open with the whole slip ups, relapse and struggles part of recovery I think that if I slip up or I'm struggling "I'm a bad person", "I'm a recovery traitor", "I can't help and inspire others if I'm messing up", "I'm not good enough", "I don't deserve love" and feeling like I'm less of a person and that I'm not a "recovery success story" because of it or if I do. I try to tell myself that it happens, it's okay to not be okay, it's a learning curve and it's part of the journey. Challenging those beliefs and moving through those feelings to get back to seeing it from a place of self love and compassion- which isn't always easy. There have been many days in the past and recent ones too where I just don't want recovery anymore and that a part of my brain doesn't care, that I'm tired of constantly fighting and that sometimes I feel like I don't have any fight in me any more. It can take every single ounce of energy at points to stay in recovery. There are days I come back from the gym and go back to sleep for 3 hours or so, so I don't have to deal with the intense tug a war in my brain of making the decision to eat or not and the consequences of either of those as well as my depression and at times suicidal thoughts. Usually after waking up again my brain is calm enough to make the decision to eat though my eating disorder will be planning out ways to relapse in the background constantly. I also remind myself of how hard I've worked and all the things keeping me in recovery though at times the darkness starts eating on and eroding all of that. It can become difficult and there's only so much you can take before you snap. As Demi mentioned in her song "I wanna be a role model, but I'm only human". They can be silent battles of hell yet they exist, they matter and they need to be talked about. So many of us face them in different ways. Sending lots of love and big hugs Demi's way ⛈๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒป๐Ÿ›๐Ÿฆ‹
  • What You Don't Know About Jazzmyne Jazzmyne opening about her battle with bulimia, this representation of women of colour struggling with Eating Disorders is very much needed. Thank you Jazzmyne ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’•
  • Living With Social Anxiety LOVE Mayim Bialik's rawness, another fav from her below ❤❤❤
  • Attacked For "Being A Goth" "I'm still getting attacked based on my appearance, it's an assault based on discrimination". Sending lots of love and hugs to Carys and I praise her courage for speaking up and out about this ☠๐Ÿ–ค☠★๐Ÿ–ค☠๐Ÿ–ค☠
  • My Sexuality So proud of Jamie's World for sharing this with us, sending lots of light and love your way Jamie and no doubt your story will be of great help and comfort to others too! ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–
  • Being Trans Is (Finally) No Longer Classified as a Mental Disorder by the WHO (The World Health Organization) LOOOOOOOVVVVVVEEEE! ๐ŸŒˆ❤๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐ŸŒˆ
  • Panic! At The Disco: Hey Look Ma, I Made It Oooo damn ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’ Brendon Urie got the groove GOING ON! ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽœ๐ŸŽHis personality is so fucking beautifully badass and infectious!. Love the meaning in the video too!
  • Sleeping With Sirens: Iris (Goo Goo Dolls Cover) Wooooo that voice and emotion! ๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ–ค
  • Mike Shinoda: Ghosts ๐Ÿ‘ป๐Ÿ‘ป๐Ÿ‘ป
  • Dog Doing Yoga With Owner ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿง˜ If you need something to brighten your day...๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒž
  • Barney & Friends: Season 2 (1993) Playlist THE NOSTALGIA! ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’› I use to have a 6 hour video tape recorded from the TV that I watched over and over of this. Season 2 is the JAM, with Grandparents are Grand, Red, Blue and Circles Too! (I swear this one explains a lot ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ˜‚) and Hoo's In The Forest I remember being some of my favs. #Mightbe25but...Barney4ever
  • Gaslighting: The 'perfect' romance that became a nightmare This can happen in all types of relationships too and also not just a "man to a woman".
With hope and love
Rainbow ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ’–