Wednesday, 24 October 2018

The Spoon Theory


The other week a beautiful and lovely person explained "The Spoon Theory" to me and I thought it was fantastic and needed to be shared here...

➤Spoons=Energy.
➤Ask yourself how many spoons do you get in a day? (For the purpose of this piece here we all get 12 spoons every single day. 
➤What's the first thing you do in the day? (Actual first thing... getting out of bed? πŸ˜‰, then what? breakfast, shower, get dressed and organised?)… well for example your morning routine takes 2-3 spoons on a good day.
➤Work/study/school takes about 7 spoons on a good day.
➤Now that means after all of that we only have about 2-3 spoons left and we have to prioritise how we use those spoons. Certain activities we may not be able to do as they take too many spoons and we don't have enough left.

Now:
➤Physical/mental illness and/or stressful life events etc. means that it takes more spoons to do things. Instead of the 2-3 spoons it usually takes for your morning routine it may now take 4-6 spoons. This means again we have to prioritise our spoons.
➤Certain activities may take spoons like exercise in terms of physical energy but have a pay back of spoons in mental/spiritual energy.
➤Certain people and conversations may give you spoons in emotional energy and others may take spoons.
➤You can borrow spoons from the future aka the next day aka exert yourself however this can result in not having enough spoons for the next day. 
➤Learning about and applying spoon theory can give you greater awareness of what gives and takes energy from you, how you want to prioritise your spoons, where to set your boundaries and when self care is in deep order aka your spoons are in the dishwasher.
➤Explaining and applying spoon theory to your inner networks can help to have a deeper understanding of how everyone is going, if support is needed and to communicate in an easy to understand way when we or the people around us are drained and in need of self care or are currently prioritising our spoons aka when you want to pass on an event/catch up but don't know how to communicate it without feeling like your offending/letting people down.

This actually all came up due to being asked about my weekend at the time and talking about how I went on a day trip with flatmates and a couple of their friends. While I enjoyed it, about halfway through my social battery died (fellow introverts...I know you know this all too well!) and also a few triggers started coming up. Between both of those things I just wanted to go home or away from the world, curl up, cry if need be and be left alone to rejuvenate and work through the inner turmoil in my head. Such situations is when I can get rather anxious, quiet and/or snappy/shitty at others. I ended up just walking to the entrance to the beach, bought a peppermint tea, sat on a rock and dipped my feet in the water and spent some time hanging out by myself and people watching.

It however can be hard to explain to others who don't really have an awareness or depth of understanding of how introverts and/or triggers work. I do try to explain at times that us introverts get energy from being alone and from doing solitude like activities such as reading, writing, listening to music, art, being with animals etc., that we need a certain level of socialness (one on ones, close small amount of friendships (I often become more extroverted in my living environment) and that too much socialness and being around too many people drains us of energy aka those spoons are gone!) and ends up making us sad. I think this can still be a hard concept for some more extroverted kinds to understand, probably how we as introverts struggle to understand how they need to constantly spend time socialising to feel energised and happy πŸ˜–πŸ€’πŸ˜‚. Though "Spoon Theory" as I noted further above is an easier way to explain and use among peer groups, family/friends and in the case of varying reasons like physical or mental illness.

Spoon theory was created by Christine Miserandino in relation to explaining to a friend what having the autoimmune disease Lupus is like.

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–

P.S: Operation steal neighbours cat underway...
#HisnamesCotton 🌼🐾🐾🌼 #Hegivesmelotsofspoons πŸ₯„πŸ₯„πŸ₯„

Sunday, 14 October 2018

Mental Health Awareness Week NZ Day 7


"Each person with mental health and addiction experiences needs to define for themselves what living well means. The definition of recovery is purposefully broad, because the experience of recovery is different for everyone."
-Let's Get Real: Working With Service Users
Te Pou o te Whakaaro Nui

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸ’›πŸ’™πŸ’›πŸ’™

Saturday, 13 October 2018

Friday, 12 October 2018

Mental Health Awareness Week NZ Day 5


The Self Harm Cycle: 
➡️Emotional suffering
➡️Emotional overload
➡️Panic
➡️Self-harm
➡️Temporary relief 
➡️Shame/guiltπŸ”„

Mental Health Foundation UK: The Truth About Self Harm

With hope and love
Rainbow ❤πŸ’š❤πŸ’š

Wednesday, 10 October 2018

Mental Health Awareness Week NZ Day 3


❣️Perfectionism
❣️Self esteem/worth
❣️Control- Feeling like food/weight is the only thing a person can control when life feels out of control, the disease of anorexia takes over & ends up controlling the person. 
❣️Safety mechanism- An oxymoron but protection from the outside world.
❣️Coping mechanism
❣️Shame
❣️Guilt
❣️Self blame
❣️Self punishment
❣️Self hate
❣️Self destruction
❣️Addiction
❣️Numbing
❣️Becoming high
❣️Identity 
❣️Loneliness
❣️Alienation 
❣️Sadness
❣️Escapism
❣️Survival mechanism
❣️Genetics
❣️Chromosome 12 
❣️A MENTAL ILLNESS with physical symptoms 
❣️Is not simply fixed by "just eating and gaining weight"
❣️Has the highest death rate out of all mental illnesses
❣️Not a choice 

With hope and love
Rainbow πŸ’—πŸ§‘πŸ’—πŸ§‘

Saturday, 6 October 2018

September Favourites


With hope and love
Rainbow πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸ’–