Sunday, 10 January 2021

2021

 

2021,

This year my schedule format kind of stays the same between work and study however it is at this stage going to be more full. With this in mind and in knowing myself and the risk for burnout instead of staying silent I've let the appropriate people know about the increased risk and my concern about burnout. I've noted to them how I think this may show up within myself and my health and that having an honest and open conversation will be needed if this shall occur either in me bringing it up or if others notice something is not right for them to bring it up with me so a plan in how to manage this can be discussed and implemented. 

As this year has started two phrases keep coming up in my mind that I know I need to take on this years journey with me of..."one step at a time'' and "stay curious". Permission slips are also on my mind a lot too in which Brene Brown talks about this. Giving ourselves permission for the things in life we at times are struggling with and need... such as permission to have fun, be vulnerable or one we've used in study over the last few years is "permission to be clumsy". We've used this when learning a new skill and trying it out amongst ourselves in class. So in saying that permission slips are also in my backpack for this years ride.

Here go 2021 🌳🌸🌺🎒🌳🌸🌺 

With hope and love

Rainbow 🌈🌷🌠

2020 Favourites Galore

https://www.pinterest.nz/pin/586593920184782384/

With love and hope
Rainbow 🌈🌷🌠

Thursday, 3 December 2020

2020 Reflection

https://mymodernmet.com/keukenhof-2020-albert-dros/?fbclid=IwAR0Mv4NV57YLK0O0XYAzUVXHMtEzcLHmOCjd3PjxtoHhN3aMwXgxnaXIHaM

As 2020 starts winding down I am too with study having wrapped up for the year. A few key learnings from studies this year has included learning more about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and trauma informed care/approach, sensory modulation-self regulating through the 5 senses as well as some of Virgina Satir's family therapy interventions such as sculpting. This is where a therapist asks individual family members to physically position how they see each member in the family, their roles and also themselves. 

On a slightly different note earlier in the year I deleted a couple of poetry pieces from awhile ago. I was unhappy as I reflected on them in how I portrayed the message I wanted to say as well as parts of the messaging being off the mark and now having more knowledge. Additionally I recently read through another one of my poetry pieces and read words I wrote within it of psycho, insane, crazy, old...😞 I went through and changed the words because it's stigmatizing and harmful language. We all like to think we aren't that person-that we don't perpetrate racism, transphobia, homophobia, fatphobia, misogyny, stigma towards those with mental illness etc. but we are all that person. We are all socialized into it in some format, we're all ignorant in some form or another and it's all so deeply ingrained into the world- the more you look and critically think about it the more insidious it actually is. 

Language matters, it shapes culture and how we see people and the world. Language can harm and can continue to perpetrate harm-consciously and unconsciously. Even when we have lived experience of something such as mental illness we can still be stigmatizing and cause harm towards others and also ourselves. When we know better we need to do better and we will all need to grapple with some pretty hard things individually and collectively for this to take place. As Brene Brown says "I'm not here to be right, I'm here to get it right". 

Can you reflect on a conversation, piece of writing or a view of the world you've held where you now know better and do better?. Can you also think of something you currently say or do that needs to change in this context?. 

I was reminded this year that health looks different for everyone and for ourselves at different times...health has looked like for me taking time off lifting and doing low impact cardio for most of the second part of this year. Focusing on trying to listen to my body to figure out and try and heal some issues within it. This has meant a loss in strength and in muscle mass. It's meant navigating triggers and having acceptance-not without frustration and struggle. Through this time having an appreciation for movement has been important. Health has been accepting challenges and very slowly learning how to eat out at cafe's for the first time in 12 years. Health has been acknowledging and accepting what led to my mental un-wellness growing up was also trauma. This uncovered another layer of grief and again reminded me of the importance of nurturing my inner child/young person. Health has been putting together sensory boxes for myself and using them. Health has been doubling down on my self care when I've needed it particularly towards the end of this year as I started to feel burnt out... thank you cat cuddles, colouring in and Brene Brown's Unlocking Us podcast. Health is many things. 

Finally a wonderful person I met recently said in deep conversation that we should be making each other cry... in the most vulnerable, respectful, uncomfortable, authentic, safe and being seen way. I felt that and I feel the same too. 

With hope and sparkles

Rainbow 🌈🌹⭐

Sunday, 27 September 2020

2020 NZ Mental Health Awareness Week Day 7

https://www.facebook.com/livedexperiencecounselling/photos/a.128919201814470/201443524562037/?type=3&theater


Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334. Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • https://malesurvivor.nz/ 
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

With hope and love
Rainbow
🌈🌠🌹

Saturday, 26 September 2020

2020 NZ Mental Health Awareness Week Day 6

https://www.facebook.com/traumaawarecare/photos/a.441797672904475/976543746096529/?type=3&theater

"Our society is built on oppression (white supremacy, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, fatphobia, to name a few) and this reality has seeped into every aspect of our culture. This reality has tremendous impacts for the health and wellbeing of folks who are marginalized.

This is critical information for any person who is in a position of power. And yet it's barley and rarely part of the curriculum in institutions, academia and trainings. Even many of the popular books about trauma barley mention this or don't at all. 

This is intentional. It helps to uphold these oppressive systems and ensures that power is not re-distributed. Sometimes this is done consciously and sometimes unconsciously. But it is always harmful. 

The status quo must be disrupted. If systems don't acknowledge their impact on the health and well being of those who are oppressed, they are doing more harm than good.

If we are not unpacking our own privilege and confronting our white supremacy, we are causing harm. This process won't necessarily be comfortable, but growth rarely is. We may feel daunted, we may feel unsure, but it is our responsibility to begin the work."

Image and words by: Trauma Aware Care

Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334. Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • https://malesurvivor.nz/ 
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/

With hope and love
Rainbow
🌈🌠🌹

Friday, 25 September 2020

2020 NZ Mental Health Awareness Week Day 5


#TraumaInformedCare

Readings:

Le Va. (2019). Weaving together knowledge for wellbeing: Trauma informed approaches [PDF]. https://www.leva.co.nz/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Trauma-informed_care_WEB.pdf

McClintock, K., Haereroa, M., Brown, T., Baker, M. (2018). Kia hora te marino-trauma informed care for Maori [PDF]. https://terauora.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Kia-hora-te-marino-Trauma-Informed-Care-for-Māori.pdf


Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334. Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • https://malesurvivor.nz/ 
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/ 

With hope and love
Rainbow
🌈🌠🌹

Thursday, 24 September 2020

2020 NZ Mental Health Awareness Week Day 4

https://www.goodfellowunit.org/course-page/understanding-trauma/trauma-informed-care

#TraumaInformedCare
Trauma Informed Care says it's not what's wrong with you but asks what HAPPENED to you?.

Free Trauma Informed Care e-learning course: Werry Workforce Wharaurau https://werryworkforce.org/elearning (Aotearoa/New Zealand) 

1. Childhood Trauma: Impact on Development and Behaviour 
  • What is trauma?
  • Resilience
  • Maori and trauma
  • Pacific culture
  • Other cultures
  • Spirituality 
  • Attachment
  • Trauma and biology
  • Brain development 
  • Fight or flight response
  • Behaviour 
  • Emotional regulation 
  • Physical health
  • Quiz
2. Trauma-informed Care for Caregivers
  • Why are you important for this child/tamariki
  • Positive and stable relationships
  • Indicators 
  • Trauma-informed care
  • Maximising safety
  • Managing emotions
  • Looking after yourself
  • A trauma-informed system
  • Quiz
3. Trauma-informed Care for the Children's Workforce
  • Trauma-informed system
  • Working towards a trauma-informed system
  • Resilience 
  • Engaging with family/whanau
  • Indicators of trauma
  • Developing a 'trauma lens'
  • Maximising safety
  • Supporting caregivers
  • Managing overwhelming emotions
  • Compassion fatigue 
  • Concluding comments
  • Quiz
4. Self-care in Trauma-informed Organisations 
  • Worker wellbeing
  • Trauma-informed environments
  • Supervision
  • Why self-care is important
  • Maori approach to self-care
  • Components of a self-care plan
  • Organisations and self-care
  • Bullying
  • Partisan thinking
  • Professional dangerousness
  • Looking after yourself
  • Looking after staff
  • Concluding comments
  • Quiz

Need to talk/Where to get help (Aotearoa/New Zealand):
  • Free text or call anytime (for a trained counsellor): 1737
  • Samaritans: 0800 726 666
  • Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757. Free text: 4202
  • Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865
  • Safe to talk (National sexual harm helpline): 0800 044 334. Free text: 4334
  • Alcohol/Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797. Free text: 8681
  • Gambling Helpline: 0800 654 655. Free text: 8006
  • The Low Down (free text): 5646
  • Lifeline: 0800 543 354
  • RainbowYOUTH: https://ry.org.nz/
  • OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
  • https://malesurvivor.nz/ 
  • Just A Thought (free e-therapy)-Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): https://www.justathought.co.nz/ 

With hope and love
Rainbow
🌈🌠🌹